Success is not a push button action

We are too conditioned to the “I want it now” attitude towards success. I simply call it the push button attitude. I blame the media for sending out messages that it is possible to get what you want instantly, anytime and anywhere.

There are so many companies promoting get rich quick solutions, hundred and one ways to lose weight in fourteen days, how to become an expert in 24 hours, etc. etc. etc. These companies are simply driven to convert consumers into customers. That’s their strategy and gradually we buy into the possibility of getting what we want instantly through the media. If you listen to a message long enough, you will start to believe it’s true.

When we are conditioned to think “I want it now”, we often find it difficult to work towards a goal the old-fashioned way, which is – diligently, consistently, honestly, persistently and patiently. I am telling you in the long run the old-fashioned way is the only effective way to achieve what we want.

Here is an experiment I would like to share. I want to stay healthy and in order to stay healthy, there are certain things I have to do regularly like exercise, get enough sleep, eat healthy food, etc. And repeat the healthy activities consistently every day.

But, I always lack the passion to exercise regularly. When I run on the thread mill on the weekend, I would always feel out of breath. There was no consistency in my breathing pattern. That’s because I only exercise on weekend and not daily.

In the last nine months I started doing things differently. I have been walking more and I have been chasing after the train (when I was late for work). I have also been walking up the escalator and taking the stairs instead of the elevator.

Throughout the nine months, I have not gone to the gym or run on a thread mill. I am not ashamed to admit I have been lazy on the weekend. After all, weekend is the time to put our feet up and indulge in some self gratification like Netflix, eating out, doing things that make us feel relaxed and happy.

This morning I decided to put aside all the self gratification and I went to the gym and ran for 30 minutes on the thread mill. To my surprise, I was not breathless. In fact my breathing was consistent and I could run with ease. That’s the result of spending committed time each day to walk more, climb more stairs, run after more trains, etc. The commute activities have helped me improve my stamina.

The point is, we already know the “I want it now” attitude will never bring us closer to achieving our goals. It is spending a slice of committed time every day on activities that will help us succeed that makes the difference. There’s no easy way to win with satisfaction except to put in time every day and to improve gradually. And most importantly, to keep doing it over and over.

Change is Good

At some point in our lives, we need to experience change. We need change to bring us out of our comfort zone and start doing the things we have been procrastinating, things we add to our bucket list in the hope to make it happen someday.

I have been keeping a bucket list for years, wishing things would change and I can cross out each item in the list. Of course that did not happen until I took charge and went after what I wanted most. What I wanted most required change.

Taking charge in 2015. 2015 is a year of change. To be more specific a lifestyle change.

Moving from a daily commute of 50 miles by car to the heart of Surrey, to a daily commute of 20 miles by train and the tube to the heart of London. That’s a lifestyle change!

Painfully changing my sleep habit by giving up 2 extra hours of sleep each weekday, waking up early to read and prepare for the day. That’s another lifestyle change.

Starting a 100 day London photography project as a way to discover more of the city I love. That’s a change in perspective.

Put into practice all I have learnt in the last 18 months. I call this “Being curious about data”. This is a change in the mindset and learning to use the tools and ideas to learn how to visualise and analyse data. That’s a paradigm change.

Change is never easy but it is always good. Change will take us where we have never been before. It is a journey worth taking. If you are undecided, go take a walk and make a list. Then ask yourself, how much do you want the things you have written down. Deep down you will know what change is required and then take the courage to make it happen. Change is action. To quote Joyce Meyer, “Do it afraid” if you know the change is necessary.


My blog like myself have evolved over the years.  The old blog served no relevance anymore to me and my readers.  I finally hit the delete button without any regrets.  I have moved on and I decided I want to write about things that mattered most and things that is of interest to me.

I created this writer’s blog and I am making this a platform for me to ramble about my everyday experiences and hopefully in doing so write about database development, SQL Server, Data Warehousing, Business Intelligence and whatever else I learn as I embark on this new chapter of my journey to convince others that databases will one day rule the world.  LOL.